How to Develop Basic Self-Motivation Skills

There are good days, and there are bad days.

But sometimes, when you’re overwhelmed, it becomes so much easier to focus on the bad. This is fine as long as it’s only temporary, or you find a way to get out of it eventually. However, if your feelings of anxiety, unhappiness or dissatisfaction linger, these can lead to depression.

In such situations, self-motivation skills would come in handy. Whether it’s a financial difficulty, tough business decision, relationship problem, or workplace conflict that you are dealing with, having self-motivation skills at your disposal will make it easier for you to avoid stressing and keep going until things get better.

To get you started, here are steps you can take to develop self-motivation skills.

1. Practice self-awareness

Take time alone, not to stress over the things that bother you. Instead, focus on doing the following:

Redirect your attention and energy to identifying your role models. Who are the significant people in your life? Is it your parents, or perhaps a teacher or old employer? Whoever your role models are, make a list of their positive attributes. Then look inward and see whether you have internalized those characteristics yourself and practice them.

Reflect upon your formative experiences. These are experiences that have stayed with you, for better or for worse. Note down details about these experiences, focusing on ones that made you happy, and once that hurt you. Next to each experience, write what you learned. You should also add what the outcome/resolution was for each formative negative experience.

Identify your positive and negative traits. Make a list of both. Congratulate yourself for possessing certain positive characteristics, and study your negative traits and find ways to overcome or replace negative, self-limiting beliefs and behaviors.

Acknowledge your value or self-worth. Look back on your past accomplishments and the friendships you’ve built along the way. Focus on how you have progressed from, say, five, ten, 15 years ago, and so on.

2. Self-manage

Self-management involves taking ownership of what you do and making it a point to always give your best to each task you take on.

Time management: If time is always a source of stress for you, maybe you should start creating a structured schedule with details and reminders of what you need to do. This is very easy to do now, especially since smartphones are equipped with calendars and alarm features. However, you need to commit to the tasks you set out to accomplish.

Goal-setting: Avoid overwhelming yourself with too many goals, or with goals that are too great in scale. Instead, focus on taking small, achievable steps so you get things done.

Relaxation: Read up on self-calming and relaxation skills. There are videos and self-help books you can use to educate and empower yourself, so you can avoid overly stressing yourself and learn to think and work better.

Positive visualization: A very strong tool for self-motivation is being able to think positively with intent. When you are faced with a problem, imagine yourself (or perhaps a role model) overcoming it and think about what happens after resolution.

3. Motivate yourself

Finally, after practicing the aforementioned steps, self-motivation becomes easier. Make sure to apply the following:

Positive self-talk: You have always been talking to yourself in your head. This time, however, focus on giving yourself pep talks or words of encouragement.

Daily visualization: Another day, they say, is another opportunity to do things right. Make a deliberate choice to do and be better. Imagine yourself doing everything you set out to accomplish for the day and then take the necessary steps to attain them. Restart, refresh every day, and keep going.

Self-appreciation: Celebrate both small and big successes on a daily basis. Keep a log of your accomplishments. These will come in handy when you need some encouragement.

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